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Look carefully...at the seemingly small moments...in the constant shaping of souls.- Neal A.Maxwell

Anonymity

In our almost 25 years of marriage we have lived in 6 towns and 4 states.  We have lived in our current home for 14 of those 25 years.  My husband grew up moving and enjoys change.  I went from birth to marriage in the same house and liked it like that.  I wanted the same stability/security for our kids so it is with some surprise that I am the initiator to the possibility of our family moving back to Utah to be closer to aging parents.  Our oldest son says he does not care if we stay or go.  He plans on leaving on a mission for our Church this Spring and will be gone for two years - he has already started to dig about his roots.  Our middle son was excited about the prospect of moving during the summer but then school started.  He was elected Student Body President, he is in the school play, he is on the school basketball team...he is firmly rooted.  Our youngest son does not even want to entertain the thought of moving across town let alone to a different state - I think he was born rooted.  And then there's me.  This is my first house.  It is where my babies grew up.  It is where I grew up in many senses.  As we look at houses and lots and floorplans for a possible move I find myself digging at my roots and then wanting to cover them back up.  We have "our people" here, if we move we will be unknown.

Anonymity.

Over Thanksgiving each member of our family chooses someone s/he wants to give an anonymous gift to over the Christmas season.  We have fun planning and delivering and remaining anonymous.  Being anonymous allows the giving to be the object for the giver and hopefully allows the recipient to ponder the many possibilites of who was thinking of him/her.

Thoughtfulness.

I have a friend who personifies thoughtfulness.  She is charitable, kind, loving, generous.  She does not want praise or credit for what she does so I was surprised when she suggested taking turns sending a card with our names and a small amount of money each month to a young mother of 6 who had lost her husband.  I was willing to participate but wanted to be anonymous.  She explained that sometimes it is important to know who is thinking of you because it gives you someone to turn to in time of need.

Need.

With our thinking about moving we are trying to be more proactive with others.  A new family moved into our Church recently.  They have an adorable toddler and are expecting a new baby any day now.  We had them over for games and dessert the week before Christmas.  I wondered how the eveing would go - we are almost their parents' age after all.  We had a great time together.  At church today I asked the mom how she was doing.  She said that her husband had to leave for a few days and she was nervous about possibly starting labor while he was gone but then she looked out her kitchen window and saw my husband's car (his office is by their apartment) and realized she had someone she knew and could call if she needed help.

A call away.

I was touched that the woman felt she could call me because we had spent an evening getting to know each other.  I want to be someone people feel they can call.  I want people I can call.  Being anonymous has its place - but my friend was right sometimes it is important to let people know who is thinking of them.

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