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Look carefully...at the seemingly small moments...in the constant shaping of souls.- Neal A.Maxwell
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The necessities
Neighborhood lady's kindergarten great-grandson was invited to spend the night at a friend's.  He packed his backpack in preparation: spiderman costume, Nascar driver costume, Santa hat and Children's bible.
If you put down that big cookie I'll give you an m&m
A dog was running loose in the neighborhood.  It's owner was unsuccessfully jangling a leash saying, "Come here boy!  Wanna go for a walk?"
Decorating Advice
I asked the boys for their "top 3" in a book of carpet samples.  15-year old picked three that were "dark enough to hide dirt but light enough that you could see a spider if it were walking on the floor."
     I recorded myself singing.  I did not like what I heard.  My 11-year old asked if I remembered when he heard a recording of himself a few years ago.  [He has a beautiful singing voice but was not pleased with what he heard.  He decided he was never going to sing in public again, even though he and 3 other boys had performed as a quartet a number of times.  It took some convincing on my part for him to believe that he sounded fine.]  I told him that I remembered.  He tipped his head to one side, raised an eyebrow and said, "And what did you say to me?"
     I relayed this incident to my voice teacher today.  She told me that singing is about giving.  She said that if the singer is wondering what others are thinking of her/him then that question will be the main focus of the audience.  If the singer is offering enjoyment/entertainment then that will be the main focus of the audience.  She said singing needs to be for the joy of singing both for the singer and the audience.  CLICK!
     I was asked to teach the 3-year old Primary church class when I was in 9th grade.  I have been teaching in some capacity ever since.  When I focus on the class or the individual, teaching is truly enjoyableIf I focus on what the class or the individual is thinking of me as a teacher, learning does not occur, time is wasted and "teaching" is stressful.

     My "acknowledgement" post stated that we all want attention sometimes.  This"post-script" post stands in acknowledgement that I am happier and of more use when I focus on giving attention to others.


14-year old girl watched a video of President Dieter F. Uchdorf's "Your Wonderful Journey Home". (
http://www.lds.org/broadcasts/article/general-young-women-meeting/2013/03/your-wonderful-journey-home?lang=eng is a link to written copy of this speech)  She said the following stood out to her first and foremost:

Your Heavenly Father knows you. Even when no one else hears you, He hears you. When you rejoice in righteousness, He rejoices with you. When you are beset with trial, He grieves with you.

Heavenly Father’s interest in you does not depend on how rich or beautiful or healthy or smart you are. He sees you not as the world sees you; He sees who you really are. He looks on your heart. And He loves you because you are His child.

Dear sisters, seek Him earnestly, and you will find Him.

I promise you, you are not alone.

What more could anyone ask?

"I need attention!" said smiling 11-yearold tonight.  I don't know when or why but years ago our family started saying, "Do you need attention?" before tickling, poking, wrestling... the questionee.  11-year old thrives on rough-housingTonight's request was really a request for a willing wrestling partner.

"Thank you for making dinner.  May I be excused?"  As explained to my children, even if they didn't like what was served theyneed to politely acknowledge the effort that was extended on their behalf.  Point even better understood when they started cooking some of the meals.

Years ago, as a newlywed, I asked my husband to tell me a specific compliment.  He complied by stating a rephrase of what I had said.  I told him I didn't want a rephrase I wanted a word for word repeat of what I had said.  He looked incredulous and asked if it would mean anything if he simply repeated my statement.  My reply, "Oddly, yes it would."  So he repeated, word for word.

An 8th grade boy's band teacher gives him a new nickname each month.  Each month the boy makes sure to tell me what the name is (Ralph from "Wreck it Ralph" for April.)  I hope the teacher knows how important she is to him.

14-year old girl hides behind her hair,  She hides behind doors,  She hides in trees - all the time hoping to be seen.  I told her not to hide too well.  She told me sometimes she can be in a room of people and still not be seen. :(

I live in a cul-de-sac teeming with little kids on scooter, on bike on foot.  They are not so careful about watching for cars so I try to be extra careful in watching for them.  This past week as I was backing the van out of my driveway I was surprised to see not a little one but a teenaged boy in my path.  I waited for him to move but he did not budge.  After some moments of waiting I turned the wheel more sharply and backed out keeping a careful eye that the boy was safely out of my way.  Later that day my high-schooler told me that earlier that day the teen boy had asked my son what I thought of him.  My son said that he told the teen that I did not think of him enough to have an opinion. It made me wonder if the skateboard parking was a means for attention - and if so, what type?

The Sunday after Spring Break my friend, who had been away for the week, looked my direction in church.  Our eyes met and she smiled before looking away.  Her smile made my day - to me it was a happy, "Hello friend!".

A smile, a hello, an acknowledgement of effort and existence.  Even if rough-housing is not your forte, at some point we all want to say, "Hey, right now, I need attention."
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